33 Ways to Manifest

33 Ways to Manifest #1

Quit hanging out with people who blame you for their problems.

“You ruined my life,” he tells me. It is a dagger through my heart.

He apologizes and says he doesn’t mean it.

He says it again.

He apologizes and says he doesn’t mean it.

He says it again.

“You know how you just say things you don’t mean when you are angry? he rationalizes to me.

As if it is okay to say such things. As if I can shrug it off and if I can’t, then I am the one with the problem.

“No, I don’t. I don’t talk like that to you and I don’t want you to talk like that to me.”

He says it again.

“I am sorry, I don’t mean it.”

Both of our lives have advanced for the better in many ways while we are together. If this is what a ruined life looks like, there are lots of people risking their lives on rubber floats to come here to have a life like this. We have the beautiful house by the water, the boat, the cars, the vacations, expensive restaurants, the friends, the dinner parties, you name it. Except the inward happiness.

I am not all that happy either, but I know it does not stem from him.




I can’t dislike him for it. He remarries and we are friends. I am glad we are friends. He teaches me alot and I am grateful for the changes I initiate because of those words. Those words give me the opportunity to release the victim vibe.

He gives me the opportunity and I take it. I radiated that vibe for a long time. 

“What the hell is wrong with me?!” I wonder. This is the second marriage with the same problem. 

It is not them. It is me. I AM THE PROBLEM. This realization changes my life.

The difficult path of turning my eyes and ears inward starts. It is very worth it. 



It is important to surround yourself with those who take responsibility for their unhappiness. It is important you take responsibility for your unhappiness, too.

It is a horrible circle of pain trying to make someone happy who is not. There is always something you do wrong, don’t say right, do too much, don’t do enough, or need to change.

If they are not willing to turn their eyes and ears inward, you are in for a miserable time.

Why do you accept this? Turn your eyes and ears inward, too. It takes 2.



If you think you cannot leave someone, you can. Don’t hide it. Tell someone. There is always help. There are people who will help you, but they will never know you need help unless you tell them. 

This doesn’t apply to only spouses and boy/girlfriends. It applies to best friends, casual friends, family, your boss, co-workers, neighbors, everybody.

Stop protecting them. Stop allowing it. It is the only way you are going to get rid of the victim vibe.

If you don’t stop accepting it, the next husband or girlfriend will do the same. You will align with the same person, but with a different face.

Lose the victim vibe. You can. You just have to want to.

If you are a victim in your relationships, you are a victim in your family, you are a victim at work, you are a victim everywhere.

Release the vibe and witness all the people who think you are wonderful just as you are show up. They are out there, but they can’t get close until you release this vibration.

Don’t keep away the people who think you are awesome.

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